You had a fight with your spouse. There was a lot of shouting (or deadly silence). You feel it’s always the same story, misunderstanding, pain, and agony with no way out. Although you are married, you feel lonely. Your spouse, your best friend, your lover who you share a home with seems miles away.
Even in a marriage, where you sometimes fight but feel you have good communication and where you feel safe, secure and loved you might want to work out particular issues to enrich your relationship.
In couples therapy, both partners get to express and explore their thoughts and feelings. I listen and together we consider your frustrations and how they affect your relationship. You will learn to recognize patterns in your interpersonal relationships and how to enhance the positive behaviors and mitigate the negative. In the secure and safe therapy environment you can learn to listen and express your feelings openly. In couples therapy you get to know your “dance”, a pattern in which the same argument is being fought again. In couples therapy you learn to know and recognize that dance, after which I teach you how to break through the negative circle in a positive way. In couples therapy we look for that first spark when you first met, the dreams you had for this marriage, and build on the strengths you have together.
As a certified sex therapist who feels strongly that marital intimacy is integral to a strong and healthy relationship, I can give attention to intimate aspects of your relationship. Some problems evolve specifically from issues of intimacy. We will address these issues and learn more about your relationship through them.